Rainbows and the Pot of Gold

Eileen Hopkins (Gramma Jamma)
Grandma’s Point of View

Grandparents have a very unique place in their grandchildren’s lives – somewhere just between this world of adults and the rainbow over the doorway into the wonderful world of fairies, leprechauns and magic unicorns. As I stand at the entrance to a land of make believe and wishes that come true, I shake at the knees, quiver on the inside, and then square my shoulders with the responsibility of keeping the fun in a visit to Grandma’s without squashing their belief in Neverland. In his renowned book, Peter and Wendy, J.M.Barrie says that “a map of a child’s mind would resemble a map of Neverland, with no boundaries at all. No boundaries indeed!

That fine line between managing the chaos and having crazy fun jumps around every visit but I have found that magic happens when I get it right! Being a grandparent, I no longer have to deal with the day to day stresses associated with taking care of a family – worry about money and education and what’s for supper that doesn’t come in a box. Instead, I can focus my energy on building character, keeping everyone safe, sharing memories and, yes, the most important one of all, focused, child-like fun!

It doesn’t seem to matter what it is my grandchildren and I do. We can be sewing doll clothes, playing Chinese checkers (the real game and not on the internet!) or shooting baskets with a four year old – the big difference is that grandparents do not have to do anything else but be in the moment. As a parent, my eye was always on the bathroom that needed to be cleaned or the toy box that needed to be sorted or the chicken that needed to be roasted. Grandmas get to just be! and if my grandchildren can hold that door open into that wonderful land just a crack so I can peak into that magical world again, I will never grow old! I will always be able to slide down that rainbow, swing off the pot of gold and play tag with the clouds – the rocking chair by the fire will have to wait!

This blog posting is not a form of psychological counselling, advice, therapy, or assessment and should not be used as such by any individual. This blog posting is provided only as an article intended to encourage thought and discourse. For specific psychology related services, please contact an appropriate healthcare provider.