Through the Child’s Eyes: 5 Part Workshop Series – 2013/2014

Surrey, BC

Hosted by The Wishing Star Developmental Clinic at Best Western Peace Arch Inn

Proudly presenting a 5-part workshop series:
Through the Child’s Eyes with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. #1856, Neufeld Institute Professional Associate

This series is specially created for every “big person” out there – moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, caregivers, teachers – who are invested in the growing up of children. Created and delivered by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, Registered Psychologist and experienced, dynamic speaker, this workshop series is now in its second year. Inspired by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, renowned psychologist and author, each of the workshops in this series are meant to stir in each participant the wonder of seeing the world Through the Child’s Eyes. Dr. Lapointe firmly believes that if each of us big people can find ourselves looking out at the world, experiencing and knowing the world, and feeling and responding to the world the way a child does, we are infinitely more capable of responding to children in ways that resonate with the science of development. That is, to do right by our children we need to see the world through their eyes.

Each workshop is a “stand-alone” workshop, and does not require participation in any of the previous workshops.


Registration for each workshop in the series is now open! There are a limited number of seats available so early registration is strongly encouraged.

Tickets are $20/person or $30 per same family couple plus GST.

Payment can be made over the phone (778-294-8732) by credit card, via mail by cheque (Registration Form to be completed and included), or in person at the Wishing Star offices at 129 – 3388 Rosemary Heights Crescent, Surrey, BC, V3S 0K7. Payment must be received within 3 business days of a phone call reservation for a reserved spot to be held. Registration is open until the day before each workshop is presented provided space is still available.

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For the 2013/2014 year, these workshops will be offered at the Best Western Peace Arch Inn:

2293 King George Blvd, Surrey, BC V4A 5A4.

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The Series

We are thrilled to present the following 5 workshops in our second year of the “Through the Child’s Eyes” series:

1. Through the Child’s Eyes: Knowing & Trusting

Tuesday, October 29, 2013 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

(This is the foundational workshop of the series and was also presented in 2012/2013 – repeat attendees are welcome! Those new to the series are strong encouraged to attend this foundational workshop)

The treasure of knowing that you are “being held in mind” brings with it an incredible amount of trust for the young child in their big person. Imagine knowing that your big person so understood you, so cared for you, so had your back, and so wanted to do right by you that you could just sit back, relax, and trust your development to unfold in the manner nature intended! This is what we want for our growing children. We don’t want young children to have to up the ante to have their developmental needs met. This leads to unnecessary challenges and a foundational disruption for the child who is simply trying to grow up. How then do we instill in our children that sense that they are being held in mind? Knowing and Trusting is a workshop that offers big people different ways to think about and approach gifting a child the treasure of being known and of “being held in mind.” This will include understanding key concepts foundational to the relationship between the child and their special big people, as well as a year-by-year developmental understanding from birth onward of how a child’s special big people can connect with them in meaningful ways.

2. Through the Child’s Eyes: Attention & … Squirrel!

Tuesday, November 19, 2013 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

The topic of “attention” is one that often has parents, teachers, and all sorts of other big people utterly befuddled. How is that a child can play with Lego for hours but cannot manage to sustain his/her attention long enough to understand “put your shoes away and wash your hands…”? Why is it that some children seem to “get better” at managing their attention, while others seem to get worse? Why is it that some children simply appear to tune out, while others become highly active, and may even present with different challenging behaviours? And how does any of this relate – or not – to the popularized label of “ADHD” and the treatment of such with medication? The reality is that it can be utterly overwhelming to wade through the vast amount of often conflictual information about attentional problems, what they are, where they come from, and how to respond to them. In this Attention workshop, we will discuss all of this with the aim of equipping participants with a sense of how best to respond to the attentional systems and needs of the children they are growing up.

3. Through the Child’s Eyes: Happy Kids & Angry Birds

Tuesday, February 18, 2014 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

As a society, we have never before experienced a revolution as swift and all encompassing as the Technology Revolution. The result is we are growing up children in a time when their brains and worlds are being changed and shaped by forces we could not have imagined even 10 years ago. Facebook didn’t exist a decade ago. Twitter and Instagram are a foreign language to many adults. And actual play in the real world is often replaced by screen time, with the average Canadian child being exposed to approximately 7.5 hours of “entertainment technology” per day. The challenge is that this has happened so quickly, we have not culturally had an opportunity to adjust our practices and build in safeguards and check-points to ensure that this revolution does not harm the influential brains and minds of our growing children. This workshop will focus on how technology exposure and use might be harming our children, how technology might be used to actually benefit the development of our children, and some ideas and guidelines to implement in our children’s exposure to and use of technology to ultimately protect and nurture their well-being.

4. Through the Child’s Eyes: Divorce & Separation

Tuesday, April 22, 2014 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

Approximately 40% of marriages in Canada end in divorce. Consider that adults are often left scrambling to adjust and pick up the pieces with what is typically an unwanted and unintended change in plans. And then think of what it must be to be a child facing all the same things. As time marches on, there are often new partners that enter the picture, and even new step-siblings and extended families that come with them. There might be two houses to travel back and forth to. There may be one parent who lives farther away with whom only occasional visits are possible. How are we meant to do this? What is the right thing for our children? What are their needs and how can we understand them? The science of child development has much to offer on the topic of supporting children through the often disorienting experience of divorce, and all the many changes that accompany that. By using this science, we will put our minds to understanding the developmental needs of children of all ages as they are faced with the changing family dynamic. We will work to understand why different behaviours can surface for children in these circumstances in order to better inform our responses to those behaviours. And ultimately, we will work to see divorce and separation the way a child does, such that our love for our children and our commitment to their well-being can keep us on track in even the most trying of times.

5. Through the Child’s Eyes: Goodbye & Hello – Adoption

Tuesday, May 27, 2014 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

The forever family. For many children who have been adopted and scooped up into the warm embrace of their parents, the journey to finding a place of rest in which growth and development can truly flourish is really just beginning. For a child who has faced the ultimate “goodbye” in order to say the most amazing “hello,” there has been introduced a whole world of needs that can be confusing and overwhelming to parents, teachers, and other big people. Interesting and sometimes difficult behaviors can surface. The child might respond at times in ways that confound and seemingly escape reason. Whole developmental systems can appear delayed or slowed. Intense emotions can bubble through. Unfortunately, popularized approaches to discipline and child development often appear remiss in addressing what can be highly complex, developmental needs for children who have been adopted, and even at times, appear to worsen the situation rather than improve it. In Goodbye & Hello we will discuss the foundational developmental needs of the child through the lens of attachment. We will use this understanding to make sense of behaviours and other complexities. And we will blend together developmental needs and this understanding to arrive at ways to respond such that true rest might be found and genuine growth fostered in our children who are adopted.

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Click HERE to look back at the 2012/2013 Through the Child’s Eyes Series