Archive for "Through the Child’s Eyes" Category

  • Through The Child’s Eyes 2017/2018 - 2017.10.17 ( Through the Child's Eyes, Workshops )

    The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic proudly presenting a 6-part workshop series: Through the Child’s Eyes with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. #1856 and Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC.

    This series is specially created for every "big person" out there – moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, caregivers, teachers – who are invested in the growing up of children. Created and delivered by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, Registered Psychologist, experienced dynamic speaker and Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC, this workshop series is now in its fourth year. Each of the workshops in this series are meant to stir in each participant the wonder of seeing the world Through the Child’s Eyes. Dr. Lapointe firmly believes that if each of us big people can find ourselves looking out at the world, experiencing and knowing the world, and feeling and responding to the world the way a child does, we are infinitely more capable of responding to children in ways that resonate with the science of development. That is, to do right by our children we need to see the world through their eyes.

    Each workshop is a "stand-alone" workshop, and does not require participation in any of the previous workshops.

    Registration

    Registration is now closed.

    Location

    All workshops will be offered at The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic:

    128-3388 Rosemary Heights Crescent, Surrey, BC V3Z 0K7.
    A note about parking: there is a parking lot in the back of the building; there is also street parking on Rosemary Heights Crescent and on 34 Ave.


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    The Series

    We are thrilled to present the following 4 workshops in our sixth year of the "Through the Child’s Eyes" series:

    1. GROWING A SECURE CHILD

    How many times have we heard ourselves saying, «our children needed to come with a manual!» This workshop introduces you to the Circle of Security Parenting program which will be offered at The Wishing Star this coming Winter! It offers a clear road map to the needs of children, which if met much of the time, leads to security. Much of the time we inadvertently make parenting harder than it needs to be, not seeing what is right in front of our eyes! This workshop will offer an opportunity to unlock your innate capacity as a parent to recognize and meet these needs. Please join us in sharing our positive intention to grow our children in the best possible way.

    2. What it Means to Be a Parent: Growing ourselves to grow our children

    Becoming a parent doesn’t come with a manual and often it leads to significant emotions and upheaval in ourselves as we wonder if we are doing it right. What we often don’t realize until we are in the middle of it is that growing up a child comes with the incredible opportunity to finally grow up ourselves. And in fact, when we have made sense of that we will finally be able to make sense of our children. This workshop will address the key elements of growth we must recognize and cultivate within ourselves as parents in order to do right by our children.

    3. Parenting in the Early Years: What moms and dads of children 0-3 years need to know

    Should you sleep train? What are you supposed to do when your 2-year-old has a tantrum? What if potty training becomes a battle? How should the transition into daycare be handled? If you have a child 0-3 years and have wondered about these and other key questions this workshop is for you. Making informed and wise decisions now about these things promotes resilience and improves outcomes ongoing. Using the science of child development we will address the big issues that come with raising your little one.

    4. LARGE & IN CHARGE

    Sometimes things get turned upside down and you find your child telling you what to do and how to do it. In other words, being bossy, demanding, prescriptive, and generally large and in charge! There is a reason this is happening with increasing frequency for our children. Contrary to popular culture, this reason is not that children need a firmer, stricter hand. The true reason for why children are adopting the large and in charge stance is much more complex. This workshop will focus on understanding how things get flipped upside down in today’s parenting culture, and will provide ideas for taking steps toward turning it right side up!

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  • Through The Child’s Eyes 2016/2017 - 2016.09.09 ( Through the Child's Eyes, Workshops )

    The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic proudly presenting a 6-part workshop series: Through the Child’s Eyes with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. #1856, Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC, and Dr. Jill Haydicky, R. Psych. #2208.

    This series is specially created for every "big person" out there – moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, caregivers, teachers – who are invested in the growing up of children. Created and delivered by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, Registered Psychologist, experienced dynamic speaker, Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC and Dr. Jill Haydicky, Registered Psychologist, this workshop series is now in its fourth year. Each of the workshops in this series are meant to stir in each participant the wonder of seeing the world Through the Child’s Eyes. Dr. Lapointe firmly believes that if each of us big people can find ourselves looking out at the world, experiencing and knowing the world, and feeling and responding to the world the way a child does, we are infinitely more capable of responding to children in ways that resonate with the science of development. That is, to do right by our children we need to see the world through their eyes.

    Each workshop is a "stand-alone" workshop, and does not require participation in any of the previous workshops.

    Registration

    Registration is now closed.

    Location

    All workshops will be offered at The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic:

    128-3388 Rosemary Heights Crescent, Surrey, BC V3Z 0K7.
    A note about parking: there is a parking lot in the back of the building; there is also street parking on Rosemary Heights Crescent and on 34 Ave.


    View Larger Map


    The Series

    We are thrilled to present the following 6 workshops in our fourth year of the "Through the Child’s Eyes" series:

    1. From BIG FEELINGS to CALM: How do children develop emotional regulation?

    Tuesday, October 18, 2016 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, MA, RCC

    Children are born with the capacity to feel all range of emotions, yet they are not born with the capacity to manage all of these big feelings. This workshop will explore how emotional regulation develops in children and our role as caregivers in this development. What do we need to understand and who do we need to be to a child, to grow settled and resilient brains that can manage much of what life brings.

    2. Sleepless in Surrey? How parents can support healthy sleep patterns in growing children

    Tuesday, November 15, 2016 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. (#1856)

    Sleep is something that our bodies need in order to restore us to full capacity. For children, healthy sleep patterns are a key part of optimal development. And every parent knows just how awful it can be – for both the child and the family around the child – when sleep is not going well. At this workshop we will discuss the development of healthy sleep patterns in growing children, dispel some myths about sleep that can sometimes hijack our efforts to get our kids sleeping better, and review some rescue strategies for getting your sleep game back on track.

    3. From Mind Full to Mindful Parenting: How to strengthen relationships and foster resilience in children

    Tuesday, January 17, 2017 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Jill Haydicky, R. Psych. (#2208)

    Parenting can often feel like a juggling act. Balancing the demands of work and home life, coordinating appointments and activities, and dealing with daily hassles can leave little time for joyful connection with our children. In this workshop, parents will learn how shifting the emphasis from doing to being has a profound effect on parent-child relationships. We will explore how a mindful approach to parenting moves us from reactive to reflective, and helps us to understand and respond to the needs of our children. We will seek to understand how taking care of yourself and your child supports the development of emotion regulation skills and fosters resilience in our children. Parents will be introduced to mindful practices appropriate for adults and children alike.

    4. Fostering More Peaceful Sibling Relationships

    Tuesday, February 21, 2017 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, MA, RCC

    Sibling rivalry is inevitable and normal. It can however lead to a great deal of frustration and worries within many families. This workshop will share ideas that will prevent and transform sibling tensions, bringing more peace into the home.

    5. Help! I’m Raising a Teenager!

    Tuesday, April 11, 2017 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Jill Haydicky, R. Psych. (#2208)

    Adolescence has been traditionally known as a time of "storm and stress," but research indicates that this developmental period need not be so stormy. In this workshop we will explore the particular challenges – and strengths – of the teenage brain, in order to understand the biology that drives the behaviour of our teens. We will discuss the role of caregivers in supporting teens through this transitional period, and provide ideas for maintaining healthy relationships while helping teens manage bumps along the road to adulthood.

    6. Discipline Without Damage: How to get your kids to behave without messing them up

    Tuesday, May 30, 2017 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. (#1856)

    When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, is it really possible to keep your cool, get the behaviour turned around, and support healthy development, all at the same time?! Parents, caregivers and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children’s development, why our reactions to our children’s behavior should reinforce connection instead of introduce more upset, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need. In addition, you’ll learn:

    • How the concept of "childhood" has been understood in different ways historically and why we must understand it anew today.
    • The basic and impactful truth behind Dr. Vanessa’s mantra "See it, feel it, be it."
    • The foundation of a healthy, effective approach to discipline that respects your child’s developmental needs… and works!

    Autographed copies of Dr. Vanessa’s bestselling book by this same title will available on site at this workshop!

    To download and print out the information, click here.

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  • Through The Child’s Eyes 2015/2016 - 2015.10.08 ( Through the Child's Eyes, Workshops )

    The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic proudly presenting a 6-part workshop series: Through the Child’s Eyes with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. #1856, Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC, and Dr. Jill Haydicky, R. Psych. #2208.

    This series is specially created for every "big person" out there – moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, caregivers, teachers – who are invested in the growing up of children. Created and delivered by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, Registered Psychologist, experienced dynamic speaker, Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC and Dr. Jill Haydicky, Registered Psychologist, this workshop series is now in its fourth year. Each of the workshops in this series are meant to stir in each participant the wonder of seeing the world Through the Child’s Eyes. Dr. Lapointe firmly believes that if each of us big people can find ourselves looking out at the world, experiencing and knowing the world, and feeling and responding to the world the way a child does, we are infinitely more capable of responding to children in ways that resonate with the science of development. That is, to do right by our children we need to see the world through their eyes.

    Each workshop is a "stand-alone" workshop, and does not require participation in any of the previous workshops.

    Registration

    Registration is now closed.

    Location

    All workshops will be offered at The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic:

    128-3388 Rosemary Heights Crescent, Surrey, BC V3Z 0K7.
    A note about parking: there is a parking lot in the back of the building; there is also street parking on Rosemary Heights Crescent and on 34 Ave.


    View Larger Map


    The Series

    We are thrilled to present the following 6 workshops in our fourth year of the "Through the Child’s Eyes" series:

    1. Discipline Without Damage: How to get your kids to behave without messing them up

    Tuesday, October 27, 2015 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. (#1856)

    When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, is it really possible to keep your cool, get the behaviour turned around, and support healthy development, all at the same time?! Parents, caregivers and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children’s development, why our reactions to our children’s behavior should reinforce connection instead of introduce more upset, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need. In addition, you’ll learn:

    • How the concept of "childhood" has been understood in different ways historically and why we must understand it anew today.
    • The basic and impactful truth behind Dr. Vanessa’s mantra "See it, feel it, be it."
    • The foundation of a healthy, effective approach to discipline that respects your child’s developmental needs… and works!

    Dr. Vanessa’s book by this same title will be released in January 2016! As a special offer to all those who attend this workshop, with proof of book preordering (just print and bring your receipt from Amazon!) Dr. Vanessa will sign book plates and will provide online access to a free webinar in 2016.

    2. I Can Get Smarter!: The power of a "Growth Mindset"

    Tuesday, November 24, 2015 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, MA, RCC

    How do we best support our children to embrace challenges rather than run from them, be truly resilient when things feel difficult and celebrate the power of possibilities! This workshop will explore Dr. Carol Dweck’s concept of a "Growth Mindset" versus a "Fixed Mindset". What is it and how do we gift our children the sense that things are possible if we work hard and stick with it. We will also explore the "supporting cast", supporting through challenges whilst remaining connected, the basis of true growth and maturity. This workshop promises to be enlightening and practical.

    3. Anger & Eruptions: Understanding anger and what to do about it

    Tuesday, January 26, 2016 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, MA, RCC

    Anger in our children is one of those emotions that often takes us by surprise, and indeed, provokes interesting responses out of us as parents. Where does anger come from? When is anger a problem? What does anger have to do with brain development? This workshop will take on the task of helping big people understand the needs of children when anger erupts. We will explore the emotional pathways that lead to angry explosions and we will seek to understand how to respond in ways that calm rather than agitate, and in ways that actually facilitate improved growth for the developing brain.

    4. From Mind Full Parent to Mindful Parent: How to strengthen relationships and foster resilience in children

    Tuesday, March 1, 2016 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Jill Haydicky, R. Psych. (#2208)

    Parenting can often feel like a juggling act. Balancing the demands of work and home life, coordinating appointments and activities, and dealing with daily hassles can leave little time for joyful connection with our children. In this workshop, parents will learn how shifting the emphasis from doing to being has a profound effect on parent-child relationships. We will explore how a mindful approach to parenting moves us from reactive to reflective, and helps us to understand and respond to the needs of our children. We will seek to understand how taking care of yourself and your child supports the development of emotion regulation skills and fosters resilience in our children. Parents will be introduced to mindful practices appropriate for adults and children alike.

    5. Screen Time & Attention Deficit: Understanding the growing epidemic of inattentive children alongside the rise of technology exposure

    Tuesday, April 12, 2016 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych (#1856)

    The nature verses nurture approach to understanding how children develop leads us to intuit that exactly how brain growth and development unfolds most certainly is impacted by the amount of screen-time and technology exposure that children have. In this workshop we will discuss two key reasons why we must protect our children’s (1) hearts; and (2) brains from the impact of screen time (video games, FaceBook, texting, social media, etc.). Participants can expect some ideas and strategies to put into place for safeguarding their children around technology exposure, a developmental guide to what is safe and when, and an overall understanding of our role as big people must be for our children as we navigate the technology revolution.

    6. When the Worry Monster Attacks: Understanding anxiety and the surprising answer to helping your child through it

    Tuesday, June 7, 2016 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    PRESENTER: Dr. Jill Haydicky, R. Psych. (#2208)

    The prevalence of anxiety in our children has perhaps never been more prominent than now. What has happened that our children are so full of worry? And what shifts need to occur for us as adults to be able to turn worry about the uncontrollable into wonder about the possibilities? As parents, teachers, and other ‘big people’ become increasingly concerned about their children and the functional daily impact of anxiety, our efforts can turn almost frantic as we try to glean helpful, supportive information from the unmanageable amounts available online and elsewhere. Too often this results in ‘quick fix’ approaches to ‘solving’ anxiety, rather than inviting a contemplative approach that is informed by the science of child development. This workshop will focus on making sense of the world of anxiety for children as they experience it and direct us to land on a surprising answer for overcoming it! We will discuss the roots of anxiety and use our understanding of such to inform knowledgeable responses and supports for the children we are growing up who might be struggling with too much worry. The goal will be to provide participants with a developmentally sensitive approach to understanding worry and transforming it into wonder.

    To download and print out the information, click here.

    Click to look back at the 2012/2013 Through the Child’s Eyes Series, the 2013/2014 Through the Child’s Eyes Series, and the 2014/2015 Through the Child’s Eyes Series

  • Through The Child’s Eyes 2014/2015 - 2014.10.15 ( Through the Child's Eyes, Workshops )

    Proudly presenting a 5-part workshop series:
    Through the Child’s Eyes with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. #1856, and Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC.

    Hosted by The Wishing Star Developmental Clinic at The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic (Surrey, BC)

    This series is specially created for every "big person" out there – moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, caregivers, teachers – who are invested in the growing up of children. Created and delivered by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, Registered Psychologist, experienced dynamic speaker and Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, RCC, this workshop series is now in its third year. Each of the workshops in this series are meant to stir in each participant the wonder of seeing the world Through the Child’s Eyes. Dr. Lapointe firmly believes that if each of us big people can find ourselves looking out at the world, experiencing and knowing the world, and feeling and responding to the world the way a child does, we are infinitely more capable of responding to children in ways that resonate with the science of development. That is, to do right by our children we need to see the world through their eyes.

    Each workshop is a "stand-alone" workshop, and does not require participation in any of the previous workshops.

    Registration

    Registration for each workshop in the series is now open!
    There are a limited number of seats available so early registration is strongly encouraged.

    Tickets: $20 + GST / person per workshop  |  $30 + GST / parenting couple per workshop

    Payment can be made:
    - over the phone (778-294-8732) by credit card,
    - via mail by cheque (Registration Form to be completed and included) or
    - in person at the Wishing Star offices at 129 – 3388 Rosemary Heights Crescent, Surrey, BC, V3Z 0K7.

    Payment must be received within 3 business days of a phone call reservation for a reserved spot to be held. Registration is open until the day before each workshop is presented provided space is still available.

    Click here for our contact information.

    Download a Registration Form if you are mailing in payment.

    Location

    For the 2014/2015 year, these workshops will be offered at The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic:

    128-3388 Rosemary Heights Crescent, Surrey, BC V3Z 0K7.


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    The Series

    We are thrilled to present the following 5 workshops in our third year of the "Through the Child’s Eyes" series:

    1. Knowing & Trusting

    Tuesday, November 18, 2014 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    Presented by Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, MA, RCC

    (This is the foundational workshop of the series and was also presented in 2012/2013 and 2013/2014 – repeat attendees are welcome! Those new to the series are strong encouraged to attend this foundational workshop)

    The treasure of knowing that you are "being held in mind" brings with it an incredible amount of trust for the young child in their big person. Imagine knowing that your big person so understood you, so cared for you, so had your back, and so wanted to do right by you that you could just sit back, relax, and trust your development to unfold in the manner nature intended! This is what we want for our growing children. We don’t want young children to have to up the ante to have their developmental needs met. This leads to unnecessary challenges and a foundational disruption for the child who is simply trying to grow up. How then do we instill in our children that sense that they are being held in mind? Knowing and Trusting is a workshop that offers big people different ways to think about and approach gifting a child the treasure of being known and of "being held in mind." This will include understanding key concepts foundational to the relationship between the child and their special big people, as well as a year-by-year developmental understanding from birth through 8 of how a child’s special big people can connect with them in meaningful ways.

    2. Large & in Charge

    Tuesday, January 27, 2015 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    Presented by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych.

    Sometimes things get turned upside down and you find your child telling you what to do and how to do it. In other words, being bossy, demanding, prescriptive, and generally large and in charge! There is a reason this is happening with increasing frequency for our children. Contrary to popular culture, this reason is not that children need a firmer, stricter hand. The true reason for why children are adopting the large and in charge stance is much more complex. This workshop will focus on understanding how things get flipped upside down in today’s parenting culture, and will provide ideas for taking steps toward turning it right side up!

    3. Anger & Eruptions: Understanding anger and what to do about it

    Tuesday, March 3, 2015 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    Presented by Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, MA, RCC

    Anger in our children is one of those emotions that often takes us by surprise, and indeed, provokes interesting responses out of us as parents. Where does anger come from? When is anger a problem? What does anger have to do with brain development? This workshop will take on the task of helping big people understand the needs of children when anger erupts. We will explore the emotional pathways that lead to angry explosions and we will seek to understand how to respond in ways that calm rather than agitate, and in ways that actually facilitate improved growth for the developing brain.

    4. Time out for Time Outs: Understanding the needs of children in the world of discipline

    Tuesday, April 21, 2015 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    Presented by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych.

    The science of child development has gifted us an incredible understanding of the growing brain and the needs of children. At the same time, we are surrounded by an overwhelming amount of "pop-culture" information and "fads" regarding how we are meant to discipline our children. And very often, we find ourselves lost in the "noise" of behaviour, rather than finding helpful ways to make sense of it, and move beyond it. The focus of this workshop is to facilitate an understanding what does and does not work for children when it comes to discipline. We will discuss what makes some approaches to discipline, such as Time Outs, actually harmful to the developing brain. And we will explore developmentally informed alternatives that allow us to guide our children in nurturing ways.

    5. Friend or Foe?: Understanding social skill development in the growing child

    Tuesday, June 2, 2015 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm
    Presented by Ms. Rebecca Mitchell, MA, RCC

    In the current culture in which we grow up children, the pressure to "socialize" them begins earlier and earlier. Our children attend baby groups, structure play dates, begin preschool, and transition into formalized education at ever younger ages. We are taught as parents that our children need to be proficient in social settings in order to have any chance of making it in this world. But what does the science of child development have to say about this hyper focus on social skills for the growing child? In this workshop we will discover the needs of growing children as they compare with the wants of the social world around us. We will explore what is healthy for brain development in the world of social skills…and what is not. And we will investigate ideas and approaches for ensuring our children both get what they need and can find their way through our social world.

    To download and print out the information, click here.

    Click to look back at the 2012/2013 Through the Child’s Eyes Series and the 2013/2014 Through the Child’s Eyes Series

  • Foul toilets + foul frustration = adaptive child with clean bedroom - 2014.03.03 ( Through the Child's Eyes )

    Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych.
    Wishing Star Founder

    The dreaded weekend cleaning day had arrived. That day when every OCD bit of me wants to just blaze through the house and pull it all into shining, calm, ordered perfection. But rather than fall under the alluring spell of my OCD-ness, my spouse and I have committed to the team-approach of having our children understand what is involved in keeping our house in running order, and having them be part of the maintenance of that order.

    And so, the OCD part of me reluctantly resorted to counting slowly and repeatedly in different numerical patterns, as I resigned myself to the Saturday cleaning battle. While our 10-year-old son is able to hold onto the outcome at the end of the cleaning journey that is Saturday (dare I say following in my footsteps of OCD cleaning glory? Ok – not quite…), our 6-year-old son is so totally and completely not there as to be 100% on a completely different planet about the Saturday cleaning ritual.

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  • Nurturing Discipline: A Grocery Store Lesson - 2014.01.27 ( Through the Child's Eyes )

    Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych.
    Wishing Star Founder

    It can be seen at any long grocery store line-up. The older brother starts pestering the younger sister who is asking the parent for the 27th time to please buy them that sugar-loaded treat. The parent is becoming increasingly exasperated. The other people in the line-up are starting to stare. And then it happens…the yelly-shouty-grocery-store-parent moment. It often goes something like “ENOUGH!!! I have told you 8 times to keep your hands off your sister. And as for you, the answer is NO!! There will be no treat!!!” One child is then banished to the other side of the cart. One or both start crying. And while the fighting and whining have stopped, nobody is left feeling very good about any of it. Read more »

  • The Fish Bowl Won – A Lesson in Physics and Adaptation - 2014.01.19 ( Through the Child's Eyes )

    Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych.
    Wishing Star Founder

    A few evenings ago my 6 year old son was busily playing in his room as I got after the dinner dishes. My clean-up time was shortly interrupted by a loud crashing sound. Something about it sounded not quite right. I soon discovered that my son had decided to change the water in his glass fish bowl (for his robofish!). Only, fish bowls full of water are very heavy. He did actually make it to the sink – the porcelain sink – but the pull half-slipped/was half-tossed into the sink…I think largely in an effort to avoid spilling the water on the floor. Unfortunately, the fish bowl got the better of the sink. See visual. Oh. Dear. I arrive on the scene and follow my son’s worried gaze to the fish bowl in the sink. I don’t see the cracks in the sink at first but I quickly realize there is water dripping out of the vanity and figure out what has happened. Read more »

  • What is a School Psychologist? - 2013.11.15 ( Through the Child's Eyes )

    Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych.
    Wishing Star Founder

    Several years ago, I was asked by a school district to assess a 12-year old boy who was struggling with reading and writing. This student was a lovely and sensitive child who worked hard and clearly wanted to do his best during his assessment. Read more »

  • Through the Child’s Eyes: 5 Part Workshop Series – 2013/2014 - 2013.10.04 ( Archive, Through the Child's Eyes, Upcoming Workshops, Workshop Description, Workshops )

    Surrey, BC

    Hosted by The Wishing Star Developmental Clinic at Best Western Peace Arch Inn

    Proudly presenting a 5-part workshop series:
    Through the Child’s Eyes with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych. #1856, Neufeld Institute Professional Associate

    This series is specially created for every “big person” out there – moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, caregivers, teachers – who are invested in the growing up of children. Created and delivered by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, Registered Psychologist and experienced, dynamic speaker, this workshop series is now in its second year. Inspired by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, renowned psychologist and author, each of the workshops in this series are meant to stir in each participant the wonder of seeing the world Through the Child’s Eyes. Dr. Lapointe firmly believes that if each of us big people can find ourselves looking out at the world, experiencing and knowing the world, and feeling and responding to the world the way a child does, we are infinitely more capable of responding to children in ways that resonate with the science of development. That is, to do right by our children we need to see the world through their eyes.

    Each workshop is a “stand-alone” workshop, and does not require participation in any of the previous workshops.

    Registration

    Registration for each workshop in the series is now open! There are a limited number of seats available so early registration is strongly encouraged.

    Tickets are $20/person or $30 per same family couple plus GST.

    Payment can be made over the phone (778-294-8732) by credit card, via mail by cheque (Registration Form to be completed and included), or in person at the Wishing Star offices at 129 – 3388 Rosemary Heights Crescent, Surrey, BC, V3S 0K7. Payment must be received within 3 business days of a phone call reservation for a reserved spot to be held. Registration is open until the day before each workshop is presented provided space is still available.

    Click here for our contact information.

    Download a Registration Form if you are mailing in payment.

    Location

    For the 2013/2014 year, these workshops will be offered at the Best Western Peace Arch Inn:

    2293 King George Blvd, Surrey, BC V4A 5A4.


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    The Series

    We are thrilled to present the following 5 workshops in our second year of the “Through the Child’s Eyes” series:

    1. Through the Child’s Eyes: Knowing & Trusting

    Tuesday, October 29, 2013 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

    (This is the foundational workshop of the series and was also presented in 2012/2013 – repeat attendees are welcome! Those new to the series are strong encouraged to attend this foundational workshop)

    The treasure of knowing that you are “being held in mind” brings with it an incredible amount of trust for the young child in their big person. Imagine knowing that your big person so understood you, so cared for you, so had your back, and so wanted to do right by you that you could just sit back, relax, and trust your development to unfold in the manner nature intended! This is what we want for our growing children. We don’t want young children to have to up the ante to have their developmental needs met. This leads to unnecessary challenges and a foundational disruption for the child who is simply trying to grow up. How then do we instill in our children that sense that they are being held in mind? Knowing and Trusting is a workshop that offers big people different ways to think about and approach gifting a child the treasure of being known and of “being held in mind.” This will include understanding key concepts foundational to the relationship between the child and their special big people, as well as a year-by-year developmental understanding from birth onward of how a child’s special big people can connect with them in meaningful ways.

    2. Through the Child’s Eyes: Attention & … Squirrel!

    Tuesday, November 19, 2013 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

    The topic of “attention” is one that often has parents, teachers, and all sorts of other big people utterly befuddled. How is that a child can play with Lego for hours but cannot manage to sustain his/her attention long enough to understand “put your shoes away and wash your hands…”? Why is it that some children seem to “get better” at managing their attention, while others seem to get worse? Why is it that some children simply appear to tune out, while others become highly active, and may even present with different challenging behaviours? And how does any of this relate – or not – to the popularized label of “ADHD” and the treatment of such with medication? The reality is that it can be utterly overwhelming to wade through the vast amount of often conflictual information about attentional problems, what they are, where they come from, and how to respond to them. In this Attention workshop, we will discuss all of this with the aim of equipping participants with a sense of how best to respond to the attentional systems and needs of the children they are growing up.

    3. Through the Child’s Eyes: Happy Kids & Angry Birds

    Tuesday, February 18, 2014 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

    As a society, we have never before experienced a revolution as swift and all encompassing as the Technology Revolution. The result is we are growing up children in a time when their brains and worlds are being changed and shaped by forces we could not have imagined even 10 years ago. Facebook didn’t exist a decade ago. Twitter and Instagram are a foreign language to many adults. And actual play in the real world is often replaced by screen time, with the average Canadian child being exposed to approximately 7.5 hours of “entertainment technology” per day. The challenge is that this has happened so quickly, we have not culturally had an opportunity to adjust our practices and build in safeguards and check-points to ensure that this revolution does not harm the influential brains and minds of our growing children. This workshop will focus on how technology exposure and use might be harming our children, how technology might be used to actually benefit the development of our children, and some ideas and guidelines to implement in our children’s exposure to and use of technology to ultimately protect and nurture their well-being.

    4. Through the Child’s Eyes: Divorce & Separation

    Tuesday, April 22, 2014 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

    Approximately 40% of marriages in Canada end in divorce. Consider that adults are often left scrambling to adjust and pick up the pieces with what is typically an unwanted and unintended change in plans. And then think of what it must be to be a child facing all the same things. As time marches on, there are often new partners that enter the picture, and even new step-siblings and extended families that come with them. There might be two houses to travel back and forth to. There may be one parent who lives farther away with whom only occasional visits are possible. How are we meant to do this? What is the right thing for our children? What are their needs and how can we understand them? The science of child development has much to offer on the topic of supporting children through the often disorienting experience of divorce, and all the many changes that accompany that. By using this science, we will put our minds to understanding the developmental needs of children of all ages as they are faced with the changing family dynamic. We will work to understand why different behaviours can surface for children in these circumstances in order to better inform our responses to those behaviours. And ultimately, we will work to see divorce and separation the way a child does, such that our love for our children and our commitment to their well-being can keep us on track in even the most trying of times.

    5. Through the Child’s Eyes: Goodbye & Hello – Adoption

    Tuesday, May 27, 2014 from 6:30 to 8:30 pm

    The forever family. For many children who have been adopted and scooped up into the warm embrace of their parents, the journey to finding a place of rest in which growth and development can truly flourish is really just beginning. For a child who has faced the ultimate “goodbye” in order to say the most amazing “hello,” there has been introduced a whole world of needs that can be confusing and overwhelming to parents, teachers, and other big people. Interesting and sometimes difficult behaviors can surface. The child might respond at times in ways that confound and seemingly escape reason. Whole developmental systems can appear delayed or slowed. Intense emotions can bubble through. Unfortunately, popularized approaches to discipline and child development often appear remiss in addressing what can be highly complex, developmental needs for children who have been adopted, and even at times, appear to worsen the situation rather than improve it. In Goodbye & Hello we will discuss the foundational developmental needs of the child through the lens of attachment. We will use this understanding to make sense of behaviours and other complexities. And we will blend together developmental needs and this understanding to arrive at ways to respond such that true rest might be found and genuine growth fostered in our children who are adopted.

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  • Heart Action - 2013.09.13 ( Through the Child's Eyes )

    Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych.
    Wishing Star Founder

    As I spent some time this week prepping for a workshop tomorrow for frontline providers, I was faced once again with the challenge of being asked the question “what do I do when…?” Being a psychologist who works with children, and also being a mom with lots of friends who are growing up their own children, I get this question a lot. You would think that I would have ready and prepared responses. And sometimes I do because it makes for a shorter conversation! And sometimes, maybe there really is a very quick and easy answer. However, 99% of the time when someone asks me “what do I do when…”, I actually don’t really have an answer.

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